It is hard not to accept that the manifestation of the world we live in is physical and material. Unless you believe that this is all a manifestation of some software program and you don’t really exist, that is. In this material world, humans have needs. From early days, we coveted tools or perhaps the fastest runner in the village fair. Over time these needs have grown to include fancy cars, mansions et al. The base need has remained the same and strong as ever. In fact, today we are coaxed into more consumption by seductive messages. Buy More! Consume More you are told. In such a world, you are asked to practice non-attachment. Therefore understanding what is means is essential.
The most obvious thing to believe if you don’t want to feel attached is to stop feeling. Kill all desires and emotions through the practice of abstinence. Once you have achieved your goal, all desires will be eliminated. Unfortunately, this is perhaps, an insurmountable goal. We are designed to feel and to desire. We are designed to manifest this as thoughts and emotions. In fact, these thoughts and emotions are incessant. How then does one master non-attachment.
Between thought and emotion is an important pause button. This is where your conscious exercises its choice of how it wishes to react. To learn non-attachment, you need to pour all your energy into this pause button. Learn to accept your thoughts. Over time, the intensity will fade as you occupy your mind with other things. More importantly learn how to control how you react to your thoughts. You have a choice. You can observe the thought and decide not to feel affected. Lost something that mattered to you? Allow the thought to flow uninterrupted. Instead, learn to accept. It really is going to be fine.