First Blush

As you live your life, you are constantly bombarded with experiences.  A significant number of these are discarded without much ado. A small fraction of these manage to get through. What gets through is often a function of prior experiences, sensitivities and your own interest. Did you fall from your father’s shoulders recently? Any sense of another potential fall would trigger a host of emotions about a potential repeat. Your entire machinery would wake up to prevent another one, regardless of whether it was imminent or not. In the case of a fall, this is working in your favor. Most often, they are false alarms. Worse, they are emotions that might be debilitating for you.

When you experience something at first blush, your body reacts to it. It registers in your brain and then your consciousness attempts to deal with it. To do this, it drops everything else it is doing and converges all attention to the problem at hand. This are crucial moments for how your life pans out. Do you chose to allow your memory to register the event? Do you allow yourself to feel the pain, anguish or anger?

If you do, your memory that ordinarily serves a purpose might end up working against you. If you just allow the experience to pass through you without allowing the feeling to register, you are better served. But for any potential lesson, the feelings are going to be a constant source of pain. Remember the fall from your dad’s shoulder? The memory will come back to haunt you anytime any event in your life even resembles that reality. Most often, it would be a false alarm. The pain will be real nonetheless.

The key to a pain free (if there is such a thing) is to not allow things to register. At first blush.