Growing up, you are taught do’s and do not’s. If you have lived close to or in a family with western influence, maybe additionally also to cross your t’s and dot your i’s. Anything else would be a travesty. The do not’s dominate as there is a verbal barrage from all and sundry on what not to do. Certainly, if a two year old is flinging food or biting people, chances are you want to tell her not to. However, in this entire process, we end up conditioning human beings on a million things. From what to wear, how to do you hair, what color is appropriate, how to talk, walk, drink, sit to how ambitious you should be and what grades you should get.
As you embrace spirituality and understanding your conscious, it teaches you exactly the opposite. It teaches you that none of this matter and none of this should affect you. You should simply be like a sieve that allows all these experiences to flow through you. Each time you don’t, you form a notion of what you ought to be. You then spend an inordinate amount of time then trying to live up to that notion. Unfortunately, there isn’t just one. There are a gazillion.
To create context, think of yourself as a 70 inch object [your height I mean] standing on a rocky planet. Just reaching Pluto, which isn’t even any longer a planet, would take you anywhere from 9-12 years. There is nothing in between. Absolutely nothing. Does it really matter how your hair is done?
Human Beings create all kinds of complexes trying to live up to the notion of what should be. If you try, someday you will embrace the notion that true happiness means not having to care.